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What is character? How is it formed?

Character is who we really are. It’s what we do when no one is looking. It’s the accumulation of thoughts, value, words and actions. These become the habits that comprise our Muslim child’s character. That character determines their destiny.

A person of character thinks right and does right according to core Islamic values that define that qualities of a good person: trustworthiness, respect, responsibility, fairness, caring and citizenship, which are all modeled through the prophet Muhammed (s).  We call these 6 elements the “Six Pillars of Character” that every Muslim parents must consider for their child. Through our role as character developers is to guide Muslim youngsters’ thoughts, words, actions and habits toward these values, which is the heart of Islam and surprisingly all people share, regardless of other differences.

The Muslim home is the primary character-building force in a Muslim child’s life, and conscious character education is therefore a major family obligation. As parents, it’s our job to guide our Muslim kids engagement with the world with as much trustworthiness, respect, responsibility, fairness, caring, and citizenship as possible.

Just to make sure we cover our grounds before we move forward...your fear for your Muslim child is real and It’s 100% valid fear Mom & Dad! However, when your fear as a Muslim parent prevents your child from the world around them, asking questions to gain more clarity & understanding; you are causing more harm than good. Why you ask?  Think...how will your Muslim child understand the difference between a Muslim and non-Muslim? How will they know what to say or do in certain situations? Who will they approach for answers to their questions? Will they shy away from praying their Salah on time or vocalize what is important to them with NO compromise? Here’s the reality Mom & Dad, the bird will eventually leave the nest, and we must prepare them by guiding the future generation accordingly. YOU GOT THIS!

So know that we addressed our internal fear, let’s get back on track about guiding our Muslim kids engagement with the world with as much trustworthiness, respect, responsibility, fairness, caring, and citizenship as possible. The challenge with that becomes more manageable by taking a simple approach and involving the full Muslim community (and YES AS A Muslim community we have an obligation towards each other’s children, NOT JUST YOUR OWN!)  in sending a common and consistent message about the standards of good character. And please keep a mental note Muslim Mom & Dad...your Muslim child will mirror your every behavior, interaction, statement, facial expression, body language, reactions, even the things you don’t say anything to, and everything in-between! So please as we address your Muslim child’s character, keep in mind your own character and what you need to work on as well.  Lead by example and Muhammed(s) did. YOU GOT THIS!

Let’s start by identifying other major character influences in your Muslim child’s life:

  • Friends
  • Life experiences
  • Stores we hear
  • Books we read
  • TV programs and movies
  • Music we hear
  • People we admire
  • People who spend time with us
  • Reactions we observe
  • Goals
  • Expectations
  • Games

Now you know what is character and how is it formed, what's next? Download your free worksheet: A personal plan for shaping your Muslim Child's character.

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