Blog by: Zohra Rahim
The term investment in general is a financial term, but when it comes to our kids it refers to the matter of investing time, resources and energy. We invest years into our children to ensure they are well-mannered and well-educated, and to ensure they become good human beings with successful careers and a wonderful lifestyle. We devote a lot of time towards creating a good life for our offspring. We work like machines to generate a living and keep them safe in a nice warm home, with food on the table. We spend time and patience in sharing our knowledge - Islamic or otherwise - to ensure our children are fully equipped to face their future and stand on their own two feet. Whatever we do, we must always do so to the best of our abilities and maintain awareness that this life is temporary. With that being said, let's dive deep into the top 6 signs why you should invest in your Muslim kids - in this life and next.
1) The Worldly life/Dunya is temporary:
A Muttaqi (God consciousness) child is an investment into our hereafter, along with their future children, and so on and so forth. We often find ourselves worrying about where our finances will come from for tomorrow when we should be worrying about where our gains will come in the hereafter; for that is the real gain. And for those out there chasing worldly goods and have the tendency to worry about providing, remember, Allah SWT is here, He is the most Gracious, He looks out for us, and is the source of providing everything we need.
In today’s world, we often tend to ignore the hereafter and the spiritual development of our Muslim kids, since following the right path can be difficult. I couldn’t agree more that it’s a challenge to raise Muslim kids especially in a Non-Muslim country, and this does not exclude other Muslim countries as well. 😊
This requires more time from parents even though they are too busy focusing on finance and preparing their kids for the rat race.
- More efforts: in the form of homeschooling, taking the public schooled child to a Madrassah/Masjid after school etc.
- More money: spent on Islamic schooling, Madrassah fee, Halal food comes at a cost for example Zabiha meat especially when you are living in an Non- Islamic country.
Last but not the least, you have to fight Islamophobia when you look and act different in dress and faith representation. However, all these struggles will seem so minimal once we come to pass. The following Ayah from the Quran informs us when you make effort to bring up Muslim kids, you will be rewarded. They Ayah further reminds us that this life is too short & will one day come to an end.
“O you who have believed, what is [the matter] with you that, when you are told to go forth in the cause of Allah, you adhere heavily to the earth? Are you satisfied with the life of this world rather than the Hereafter? But what is the enjoyment of worldly life compared to the Hereafter.”
2)Invest to prepare your child for the day when every man will be for himself:
During judgment day, no one will bother anyone, pay attention to others, or worry about their offsprings other than him or herself. So if you think on that day your friends or family would help you, well, your in for a surprise as Allah Almighty says:
“When the Deafening Blast comes, the Day a man will flee from his brother and his mother and his father, and his wife and his children: on that Day every man among them will have concerns enough of his own.” (50:33-37)
This ayah clearly explains that on the day of judgment no one will come to help anyone. Rather, every person will be on his or her own without any assistance from anyone. Such will be the judgment day when only the deeds and acts of a person will predict his or her furton. If we invest in our Muslim kids in this world to prepare him/her for the hereafter, the child will be ready to face the day of judgment with a smile in sha Allah.
“O believers, save yourselves and your family from the Hellfire whose fuel is men and stones”
Whenever Allah سبحانه وتعالى begins anything with the phrase ‘O believers!’, it means He is alerting our attention to something important for us to do or to avoid. In order to safeguard and protect our family means to ensure they live by the commandments of Allah and to avoid his prohibitions. However, we love our kids so much that sometimes we even forget to pray as new mothers or as fathers busy making a living. So, the judgment day should be one the biggest sign that guides/warns us to be hasty with boundaries in preparing our kids to work in this dunya to earn a reward in the hereafter. You can’t benefit your kids neither can he/she so why not help them now so their virtuous deeds will help you all as a family. We as parents are responsible to protect our children and family from hellfire and will be held accountable for it.
3)Your child is your Sadqa Jaria (endless ROI):
We are encouraged to have more children not only to increase the Ummah by numbers, but also strive towards upbringing righteous kids - this will be your sadaqa Jaria. A Muslim child is like a planted tree and what good or bad fruit he/she bears will be accounted for in your final accounts on the Judgement day. A farmer strives hard that his crops and orchard remain green and fruitful, shouldn’t we as Muslim parents maintain our kids in the same manner? A child will make dua for us when we are no longer here on earth, and only when he/she knows Islam and the rights of parents. Your offspring belongs to you, their outcome also belongs to you so if you invest in their Iman, Ikhlaaq (manners) and understanding their faith. You will In-shaAllah own the rewards in this world and the hereafter.
Aa’ishah narrates that “The Messenger of Allah said: ‘The best of what a man consumes is what he earns, and his children are part of his earnings.’” May we always seek the good and earn good -Ameen. Check out this awesome video: Investing in Children - Sheikh Omar Suleiman
4)Invest because it’s the way of all the Prophets and the Sunnah of Muhammad(s)
In the Qur’an, Allah chose Luqman, Yaqub(عليه السلام) and Ibrahim (عليه السلام) and others to show us what is primarily needed to observe proper tarbiyah (education and upbringing) of our children in a manner that is pleasing to Allah(s), the manner which will make them amongst the Muttaqeen. Raising a child doesn’t end at feeding cleaning and sending a child to school etc, but there’s more than what meets the eye. While maintaining external responsibilities, feed their souls what will cultivate Iman, and show them real life examples about teaching of Islam through your actions.
The following ayah from the Quran points to the importance of effort to make sure that our children are virtuous, God fearing Muslims. This is explained in the Quran and Hadith that when one man invests in his child then the reward continues for generations to come. Imagine the good deed multiplying overtime and the result will force us all to think about how we spend our time with our kids, where we spend our time, and what is the impact of our kids and their offsprings. The Prophets have asked Allah subhannahu wa Ta’Aala for guidance, Ibaadah and leadership for their generations to come. We as parent should also ask the same for our Muslim children like the Prophet Ibrahim عليه السلام used to invoke Allah.
Great are the rewards for investing in the Dunya and Akhirah of our Muslim child. When the father of the Prophets Ibrahim عليه السلام. invested in his generations with the will of Allah, from him descended all the prophets who came later, including Muhammad(s).
The following ayah shows the way his beautiful prayer was answered by the Almighty when Ibrahim عليه السلام and the generations that follow were granted prophethood.
“And We bestowed on him (Ibrahim عليه السلام, Ishaque عليه السلام and Yaqoob عليه السلام) and ordained among his offspring Prophethood and the Book (i.e. the Taurat to Moosa عليه السلام, the Injeel to Eesa عليه السلام, the Quran to Muhammad ), all from the offspring of Ibrahim, and We granted him his reward in this world, and verily, in the Hereafter he is indeed among the righteous.” (Quran, Surah Al-Ankabut, Verse 27)
5)Invest because it’s the parent’s duty to preserve a child’s religion:
Every child has a fitrah (innate tendency) in his heart to believe in tawheed (the oneness of Allah) and to develop Iman in Allah. The seed has already been sown. We, as parents, now have to nourish this seed so it grows into a tree that can withstand the trials that try to trap our kids into committing anything outside the folds of Islam.
Behold, Luqman said to his son by way of instruction: “O my son! join not in worship (others) with Allah: for false worship is indeed the highest wrongdoing.” [Qur’an: Chapter 31, Verse 13]
When you invest in their dunya you also reap the reward in this dunya in the form of a loving, obedient child who makes your eyes cool and makes you feel proud of him/her. A Salih (pious) child will take care of you when you are old, will stay away from shirk, will never go near Haraam, will abhor Zina (fornication), will serve the Ummah and humanity as per the Islamic principles.
AND will be a Sadaqa Jaaria, will pray for you when you are no more!
6)Invest so your child can be an Imam in this world and the next (Allah willing):
The need to train, nurture and teach Islamic values, norms and principles to our family is even more serious given the context of the widespread assault on Islam, Shari`ah and Muslim family values. Imagine for a few minutes what did the parents of Islamic scholars like Shiakh Omar Sulaiman, Ustadh Nouman Ali Khan, Dr. Farhat Hashmi, Abdul Sattar Edhi become the leaders they are today?? The difference is they new their child is their key to Jannah and has all the capabilities to lead the Ummah as a scholar, teacher, Imam etc. When a child comes into this world, his parents (generally speaking) start preparing him/ her to join the herd and prepare to excel in this world. We must realize that as parent it’s our duty to help our child stand up and lead with the principles of Islam. We are in dire need of leaders to mobilize the potential of our youth, we must invest in our youth to lead the Ummah.
Why do you think, our Ummah is suffering? It’s not the lack of resources, people etc. What's needed are leaders who can help us remember who we were and who are are right now. We also need leaders to allow the youth and young generation to lead, as this is the only way to bring them back to the house of Allah(s). That’s only possible when we get out of our comfort zones and let our kids be fully equipped with the knowledge of deen and dunya in a balanced manner. Don’t prepare your kids to turn into money making machines, teach them to live with purpose and a vision. Let us start investing in our kids with the concept of this Dua from the Allah(s) says
in Surah Baqarah Verse 201 “But among them is he who says, Our Lord, give us in this world [that which is] good and in the Hereafter [that which is] good and protect us from the punishment of the Fire." Your Muslim child is your earning, so it’s all up to us how we invest in them in this world and the hereafter, let’s all take the first step and INVEST IN OUR MUSLIM CHILD!
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